我真的沒有錯嗎?
冬天到了,能夠在晚餐時和家人一起吃火鍋,是件很幸福的事。在台灣,最常用的火鍋湯底是蕃茄、白菜、豆腐、海帶和玉米。用這些食材先熬煮成湯,既鮮甜又健康。有一次阿娜答在喝湯時說,「玉米的鬚好像很營養!」。我也記得書上有這麼寫過,所以就決定在下次煮火鍋時,把玉米鬚洗乾淨留下來,全部都放進去一起煮。
沒想到,一根玉米的鬚鬚真是多得不得了。阿娜答一撈起來就皺眉頭,他很生氣得把它們往肚子裡吞,一句話也不想說。我嘗試著解釋:「因為你說玉米鬚很有營養,我看書上也這麼說,所以就把它們都煮進去了。」聽我這樣解釋,阿娜答更生氣的說:「要煮也不能煮那麼多啊,吃了很容易嗆到耶!」
我聽了深覺委屈,心裡有千百個理由要辯解。第一:是你說這個東西很好的。第二:洗這些玉米鬚有多辛苦,你知道嗎?第三:你是大人又不是小孩,吃東西可以自己控制,小心一點就不會被嗆到了啊!……..我不想和他吵架,決心和他冷戰以示我的抗議。但是有個微小的聲音出現在我心中:「我真的沒有錯嗎?」
其實在清洗的過程,我也很訝異這些玉米鬚的數量之多,我有發現這個事實,卻還是把它們全部煮下去。當別人指正我時,因為不想認輸,所以就想找理由來解釋我的行為,這不是和夏娃當年的行徑一樣嗎?我心中的怒氣慢慢的減少了,於是對阿娜答說:「真是抱歉,下次我不會放那麼多玉米鬚了。」阿娜答一聽我這麼說,他也收起那冰冷的臉孔,拍拍我說:「妳煮飯也辛苦了!」
有人說,「夫妻關係沒有你贏我輸,只有雙贏或雙輸。」只要我們能彼此互相退讓一步,就都可以成為贏家了。
以弗所書5:22-25
「你們做妻子的,當順服自己的丈夫,如同順服主;因為丈夫是妻子的頭,如同基督是教會的頭,他又是教會全體的救主。教會怎樣順服基督,妻子也要怎樣凡事順服丈夫。你們做丈夫的,要愛你們的妻子,正如基督愛教會,為教會捨己。」
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Am I not wrong at all?
Winter comes, it is a happiness to enjoy
hot pot with family for dinner. In Taiwan, people often use tomato,
Chinese cabbage, tofu, kelp and corn as base. Taking these ingredients to
make stock, it is not only fresh sweet but also healthy. One night my
husband ate soup and said:「It seems that corn silk
are very nutrient.」 I have remembered that one
book has mentioned it, too. Therefore I decided to clean and collect all
corn silk to cook with other ingredients for hot pot next time.
The silk of one corn are so much beyond my
expectation. My husband scooped a lot corn silk and swallowed them
frowned with no words. I tried to explain: 「I put all corn silk into stock, because you said the corn silk are
very nutrient, and I have ever seen the same point on one book.」 He became more angry after my explanation and said
snappily: 「You cannot cook too much corn
silk! It is very easy to be choked!」 I felt
so wronged and tried to defend by hundreds of reasons. First, you said it
is good for health. Second, do you know how hard it was to wash
them? Third, you are adult not child. You can control how to
eat. If you are careful, you will not be choked! …….. I did not like to
argue with him, so I decided to give him the silent treatment in order to show
my protest. But a small voice appeared in my heart:「Am I not wrong at all?」
In fact, I was also surprised the amount of corn
silk in the cleaning process. I have found the situation but still cooked
all of them. It was difficult for me to admit my mistake while others
corrected my way, so I tried to find excuses for my behavior. Did I do
the same thing as Eve before? My anger in heart became less. I
turned to my husband: 「I feel so sorry. Next time I will not cook so much corn silk.」 Once he heard my words, he changed his serious face and
patted my back: 「It was hard for you to prepare
dinner!」
Some people say: 「There is no winner or loser between man and wife, only both winners
or losers.」 As long as we make concession to each
other, we can all be winners.
Ephesians
5:22-25
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you
do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the
head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to
Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love
your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.


















